The whole 'Nice Guys finish last' argument is really on my mind at the moment. From the two perspectives that it comes from there are so so many thoughts that bounce around in my head when I think about it.
I've heard this comment made by three kinds of people;
the "Nice Guys"
the "Bad Boys"
and the "Popular Girls"
Let's start with the first one. Define a "Nice Guy" for me dear readers, what do you get? Your best friend? Your significant other? From all the "Nice Guys" I see making this argument blaming how single they are on the fact that they're "Nice Guys" it rather irritates me.
Part of my fueled reason for this rant was when a person I really really cared about was contacted by a guy on a dating site. And she gave him her number, and then when he started getting creepy she told him not to call anymore. And he rages on about how he was trying to be "Nice" and that she would not know the first thing about a real man and that she had no hope whatsoever in relationships.
This is one of many examples that I've seen... And first off. If you're a "Nice Guy"... Why would it take effort
to be the Nice Guy if that was who you supposedly were? Obviously you're not if you need to put on a front to be it.
These supposed "Nice Guys" claim that it's because they're nice that women don't want them. Have they ever looked at themselves and wondered; "Maybe it's because I'm sexist." or "Maybe it's because I'm actually a dick." "Maybe it's because I'm shallow." or even if so called Nice Guy is certain none of those apply; "Maybe she's just not compatible with me."
Have you tried not only looking at yourself but looking at the woman you want? Do you only want her because she has big brassiere-fillings and curvy hips? Do you want her because every other guy wants her? Do you want her because she has a sexy voice and you believe all these are the components for love? Have you ever spoken to her? Does she share any interests that you have? Does she share the same humor? What about her lifestyle? Do you really know
anything about her?
A lot of the time it's the guy's own pity-party and justifying his fatal flaws rather than attempting to amend them and becoming a real asshole in the process blaming women for their own issues. In real relationships you change for the ones you love. And I don't mean things like pretending to like the same games and music they do and drinking because they do, I mean real things, those in real relationships know what I'm talking about.
I'll end it there and move on to the next section.
It's actually genuinely rarer that I have come across "Bad Boys" that make this claim, but that doesn't mean I have not seen it. And it usually comes from the same place lots of bad things come from; Bullies just up on a high horse because they managed to get some girl to sleep with them.
To those who have been said that they will never find anyone because you're "Nice", and you're not one of the above who need to put on a Nice Mask to be the Nice Guy you claim that you are and did not previously believe you were single for being nice until some dickhead said it to you.
Having sex with any woman is not really any achievement. There can be women worth being in love with and there can be ones that aren't worth it for you. Just the same applies with men, so just because you haven't been with as many women as them, or any at all, it doesn't make you a loser, it makes you the better for not hammering the first girl ready to use you for a git and shiggle so she can laugh about you to her friends.
Let the Bad Boys have those Bad Girls. And find a Nice Girl.
Third section time!
Popular girls. Now I know that this does not apply to all people, as with my previous paragraphs. But there are some chicks that just love attention, they thrive off of it at any expense. When guys say that they can't get a popular girl in this situation because they're "Nice" in this case. The guy isn't the primary problem. The girl that wants to string along all the guys that will give her a name for stringing along is the one with the issues. You have to learn to tell who these women are. But not resent them or be the bitter dick for it either. Because that doesn't make you a Nice guy.
I have my own Nice Guy, a real one who I love dearly, and I'm sure many other girls who are in love have a nice guy too. So Nice Guys don't finish last. Nice Guys get to feel real love.
But that's just my opinion... Now read over it again and look at how many times I said 'nice' throughout this rant xD